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click below to download our Press Kit. 



The Fix, June 24th, 2016


The Huffington Post, December 17th, 2017

Logo, New Now Next, April 14th, 2020

New Yorker of the Week, June 7th, 2021

A&E Networks, Voices Magnified, October 1st, 2021

Attitude Magazine, January 2023



Gay & Sober started it because we found that pride celebrations were always sponsored by big alcohol and there was nothing being offered that was fun, safe, and affirming to LGBTQ people that didn’t drink or that were sober. We started out in 2009 as a once a year, 4 day event during Pride Weekend in New York City. We’ve since expanded to host amazing experiences for our special niche community members at Dollywood theme park, Fire Island Pines, Amsterdam Pride, and we will have a presence at the next five WorldPrides. We are also developing a new destination experience in London. 

The cool part about all this is that we are all volunteers. Passionate volunteers that don’t get paid.

We do it because we love seeing people realizing that they can have fun and live life to the fullest in sobriety.        MORE INFO IS ON OUR MISSION PAGE. 


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"The GSM Conference truly changed the trajectory of my life" 


Celebration, Florida

"I had so much fun. I don't remember having so much fun, even when I was drinking. When I was drinking I wasn't as relaxed and free and joyful and connected with so many people."


New York City

"GSM is really like no other. It's just the perfect mix of recovery and fellowship (with a little hedonism thrown in.)"



“As soon as the lockdown started, I didn't know what I was going to do. I Googled LGBTQ Sobriety and Gay & Sober popped up. Thanks to their meeting directory, I have found an online home group. I am now coming up on 9 months of sobriety and feel a part of something really good."

Martha N.


“Such a powerful event. Thank you all for being a part of it, and a huge thank you to the committee and volunteers for organizing everything. I will remember this for the rest of my life.” 

Will Holmes H.

Texas, USA


“The best, most well organized roundup I've ever been to.”
John P.     
California, USA 

“I’m very grateful for this group. This page has really helped me stay connected with recovery even when I’m on the go. Thank you, all of you, for sharing your experience, strength, and hope!”

Kekoa K.

Hawaii, USA

“The GSM Conference - It was the best five days of my life!”
Wilson M.     
North Carolina, USA

"What an incredible weekend at GSM2019! It was like a well-oiled machine thanks to the committee members, the volunteers, and all the fellowship who attended this amazing conference. You want to feel at home, come to next year's GSM2020, you'll be blown away at how amazing your sobriety can be. The parade and cruise was one of the best experiences I've had in one day in my sober journey." 

Glenn Bryant H.

Texas, USA

"It was a great opportunity for me because we don't have such a convention in Japan. It was an eye-opening experience for me. And I also made a lot of life long friends there."


Tokyo, Japan 

"This weekend has been full of amazing gratitude. This weekend has been full of amazing moments with my friends. It has also been about being proud of who I am. Gay, sober, happy, joyous, and free. Thank you NYC and GSM for allowing me to be present."

Danny Lee C.

Texas, USA

“GSM 2017 and Pride were one of the highlights of my year. For being a new conference it was an incredible success. Thank you to everyone who helped put it together and everyone participating! For being a new conference it was an incredible success and I'm honored that I was able to play a small part in it!
Michael E.     
Florida, USA

“The Gay & Sober Men’s Conference was a truly transformative experience. To be among so many gay and sober men and to feel such love and warmth from the entire city was incredible. The weekend was a perfect blend of program and pleasure.”
Matthew H.     
North Carolina, USA

“The event was just a few days but the friends and memories are for a lifetime.”
Gerry P.    
California, USA

"I was so grateful to be able to make it to that conference. I'm so excited for the new experiences, the new friendships." 

Miguel H. 

Texas, USA

"Words will never be able to explain all the gratitude I felt this weekend. To be able to show that being sober in no shape or form means being boring." 

Antonio M. 

Texas, USA

“Awesome group. Awesome men!”
Richard W.  
Wisconsin, USA

“The one and only worldwide site for gay, sober, guys. In my experience, well run, informative, and the embodiment of the fellowship. A fantastic resource.”
Kevin O’K.
Brighton, UK

"I attended both conferences and made lifelong friendships. I get so much strength and support from this group on a daily basis. It's a vital aspect of my recovery. And that is what is most important."

Gabriel G.

California, USA

“I really appreciate all this group has done for me,my only wish is that since we have such a fairly large gay community here in Boise Idaho that our sober group would be a little larger and stronger the need is there 2017 hope to meet many of you there!”
Danny B. 
Idaho, USA

"I have some time to reflect back on the amazing experiences, emotions, and fun I had at the incredible GSM 2019 Conference. I got to see and reconnect with old friends and as well as meet and make new ones. My heart is also full of gratitude for how much these conferences have done for me and my sobriety."

Burke F. 

Arizona, USA

“This is a safe place for people to share their successes as well as struggles in sobriety, and get positive support and feedback as requested. It's a great way to meet and feel connected with like minded sober men all over the world, which broadens my sober support network from my local community to worldwide. Who can ask for much more. Oh I can, I'm so excited about the GSM conference coming up in June in NYC, where I'll get to meet lots of these guys in person and share incredible experiences. This group has it all.”
Steven B.
Georgia, USA

“This is an excellent forum for gay males to support each other and share in our growth and challenges throughout our sober journeys. Bravo!”
Michael F. 
Arizona, USA

“Very well run site, great source to get advice but be ready for some strong opinions . Just remember to take what you need and leave the rest because Mary gets a little crazy at times. Discussing thing with your Sponsor can help you navigate through some of the weeds.”
Jim D.
Connecticut, USA

“When I was in a bad place and did not want to go out, I was able to meet several people that became friends and provided daily support. With their encouragement, I was able to keep going. I love this group.”
Jackson D. 
California, USA

“Five Stars!”
Patrick K.
London, United Kingdom

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